Why Positive Affirmations Create Suffering & What to Do Instead

Francesca Posted on May 27 2018

Your thoughts shape your reality.

Creating the perfect you is easy: repeat in your head who you want to be and what you want to get several times per day. You'll be who you want, and you'll get what you want.

For example, if I wanna make 20K per month, just set in your mind this concept by repeating something like, "I earn 20K per month easily. I'm proud of myself because I can sustain my family, and I have much more time to spend with them", and boom!

You'll earn 20K per month faster and easily.

The principle of this theory is that the same thought runs through your mind as a loop shaping your mind and reality, attracting whatever you want.

Change your thoughts, and you change your reality.

Is that right?

I thought that I didn't achieve my goal because I was bad on something.

Maybe the formula was wrong, or I was not able to think well (while other people did)...yeh, I though that!

Today I call that stage "The after-effects of positive affirmations."

It's like a hangover when after a few hours of excitement and euphoria, come sadness and listlessness.

Despite all the frustration and time that I lost, today, I'm glad I went through that process because I learned so much about myself and about the real power and magic everyone hold inside.

Repeating words, concepts, or values that aren't deeply rooted within ourselves yields teeny little fruit.

We thrive when we nurture the seeds of innate qualities or beliefs that already exist within us. By cultivating awareness and attentiveness towards these core principles or values, we can encourage their growth and manifestation.

It's crucial that these words, concepts, or values resonate with our inner being, even if they are initially modest or delicate.

Attempting to impose beliefs or actions that don't authentically resonate with our inner selves results in outcomes that lack genuine nourishment and vitality, then, they not just get teeny tiny results, but can be potentially harmful.

Here's why:

When I ask my computer to do something for me, and I use the right codes and data, it always says yes to me. It doesn't work for humans. Why? Because humans are much more than computer. So, stop comparing humans to machines, it's like comparing flowers to a pencil sharpener!

You're one of the most complex, mysterious, intelligent and beautiful creatures in the Universe.

You're able to combine tangible data and feelings together to get an open view of reality. And you do it every single moment, with no effort. Even now.

Just an expression is not enough to change your authentic vision of reality.

Instead, your entire being need much more information to get a picture in every aspect of yourself, others, and the environment and actually believe in that picture.

Example: If you'll be the guest at a big conference and know you can't manage your emotions, repeating "I'm smart, I'm calm and spontaneous" doesn't help to gain more confidence and focus. That's why you experienced panic speaking in public, and you know nothing is changed in you from the last time you did that. You know this kind of situation gets out of your hand.

These are pieces of information that you get from your body, and if they're in contrast with what you're saying in front of the mirror, then your entire being can't believe in them. If you delude yourself you believe in that statement, you're unable to perform aligned, coherent and powerful actions as you're potentially designed to do.

I believe one of the significant misunderstandings perpetuated by our culture is the notion that our power solely resides in the mind, and that the mind governs the entire body. However, we are an integrated whole, where the mind, body, and soul are intricately interconnected. None of these aspects dominates the others; instead, they collaborate harmoniously for the overall well-being of the individual.

If you find your mind attempting to dominate your life, disconnecting from your emotions and sensations, know that you're not alone. Millions have grown up with this inaccurate and ultimately toxic perspective. Here're some frequencies that might help to reconnect with the intelligence of your body making teaching you to make some space among thoughts.

I suggest to work with one of the crystals that supports the activity of the Second Chakra in combination with another that support the back side of the Third Eye.

When you use your mouth or your mind to say something you don't believe, your unconscious says: "The most important person in my life, myself, is lying to me! She's ashamed of me!"

This causes suffering.

We used to think that heart suffering comes only from the outside, but it's false. Lying to yourself is one of the worst wounds you can inflict on your Heart.

If you find yourself in this position, honor those wounds, they have so many things to teach.

They're showing that the only way to follow is loving yourself as you are. They're encouraging you to grow through tangible actions, not easy shortcuts.

To encourage the healing process of your Heart, you can wear Rose quartz, Dioptase, and Pink Kunzite or Malachite.

If the goal of your sentences is become a different person than who you are now, it means you are not good enough, you don't have some skills that other successful people have, or you are essentially inadequate.

Something is broken in you (...of course, in other people, don't...), so you need to show up differently in order to be accepted by society. In other words, you need to soffocate unacceptable parts of yourself to be worthy of abundance, love and happiness.

This process of thinking, this perspective on yourself, drains your self-esteem drastically. This is exactly what you have to avoid in the journey of pushing yourself out of your comfort zone - where your wounds dwell - to grow. This is how we actually expand our being to heal and evolve.

If you recognize the pattern of feeling 'I'm not good enough' as prevalent in your personal journey of growth, you may find benefits in working with frequencies that support the activity of the Solar Plexus Chakra such as Heliodor, Tiger Eye and Yellow Opal.

One of my favorite and most powerful ways to work on personal and spiritual growth is replacing positive affirmation with self-affirmation.

Self-Affirmation practicing shifts the focus on your authenticity instead of on "abstract models".

You overcome any challenge by using your skills, value, and attitudes as tools to reach your goal in your own way.

Walking this way, you'll gain more confidence and self-esteem, plus everything will be easy and also fun for you because you play on your own territory by using your own compass.

To know more about what self-affirmation is and the benefits you get from it, I strongly recommend listening to what the social psychologist and public speaker Amy Cuddy says here below.

If you really want to change, you have to be actively open to change.

If you want to make the best version of yourself free to flourish, you need to engage yourself to take action!

Here's how:

• Learning new things and doing what you never did before: changing starts with action, not thoughts.

• Stop to procrastinate: if you know what you would need to get what you want, just do it.

It will not be an overnight change, but you can do it. Most of the time, the stories that we tell ourselves are much bigger than reality. I'm sure you'll discover in yourself skills and potentials that you can't even imagine.

The essence we seek to capture with 'think' is more aligned with 'grounding thought,' indicating a sense of belief.

This famous quote doesn't mean repeating some phrases in the mirror is the recipe to grow. Instead of letting your grounding thought leads your actions, then you grow.

• Trust yourself instead of asking to be someone else: when I saw that something didn't work for me with the "positive affirmations technique", I shifted my approach to meditation from "ask" to "embrace". What do I mean by that?

Today during my morning ritual, I don't ask anything.

Instead, I'm compassionately seeing myself as I am, and I set myself ready for everything the upcoming day has to offer. Not because I'm sure to find the perfect solution for everything but because I'm ready to be present and handle everything at my best.

This simple shifting frees me from anxiety and stress and permits me to go forward authentically, avoiding comparison and self-judgment.

Perfection is a concept, not a reality. Do you wanna live in an etheric world made of ideas and theory, or do you wanna live on this planet?

If you choose Hearth as your home, don't let the idea of perfection will stop you.

Perfection is an idea, a kind of invention if you will.

Everything in this world has a dark and a bright side. Anything is totally good or bad.

Even when we can't see the dark side, it is still there and real.

Everything is a process, not towards perfection, instead of towards happiness and fulfillment.

Hope it helps, especially if you're experiencing the same struggles after a positive affirmation.

If you set your phrase formula and practice this popular technique, but nothing seems to change, I want to tell you: "You're not wrong, the formula doesn't matter, and your energy is perfectly aligned with the Universe. But your way is being yourself, not what other people want from you or pre-set package."

If you want to grow, you need to be focused on your own values and raising them by staying consistent, learning new skills and trusting the process.

Every transformation is a journey and what you'll meet is a mystery. However, you're a miracle generator. Never forget that.

All Love,

Sincerely

Francesca

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Regina: November 16, 2019

This article was VERY helpful to me. I have been feeling stuck, and just as you stated…all the positive affirmations were giving me anxiety because I didn’t believe them. Going to my core beliefs is what I need to do. Thank you so much!
FRANCESCA MANCINI: October 22, 2018

<Hi Rhiannon, I’m so glad this article was helpful for you :) Thank you so much for sharing your heart! All Love and scented vibes from Milan!
Rhiannon Day: October 22, 2018

I love this article so much! Such an important distinction about affirmations. Done correctly, they can actually be harmful! I love how well you’ve explained how to do them and the added video was interesting too. Thanks for sharing!

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Why Positive Affirmations Create Suffering & What to Do Instead

Why positive affirmation practice is not always effective

1) you're not a robot

SUPPORTING THE SACRAL CHAKRA'S ACTIVITY

SUPPORTING THE THIRD EYE'S BACK SIDE

2) you're hurting your heart

To encourage the healing process of your Heart, you can wear Rose quartz, Dioptase, and Pink Kunzite or Malachite.

3) you're telling yourself you're not good enough

What to do instead

1) go deeper into your values

2) don't wait for the transformation, create it!

"what you think you become"

Buddha

3) PERFECTION is an abstract concept

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