Francesca Posted on November 13 2017
The power of consciousness and feelings are underestimated in our society.
What is important seems to be outside of ourself because it's easy to see.
But fortunately, over the last years, the modern psychology reveals that what we feel and how we work on our feelings are crucial in life.
Now we know that the way we respond to events, not the events themselves, determines our happiness and fulfillment in life.
However, some events can hurt us so deeply that paralyzed soul, mind, and body. Here's why the process of forgiveness needs time and could be significantly challenging.
However, forgiving is vital.
Not because is a hippy peace&love thing, instead it's the crucial condition for build a serene future.
Forgiving is vital because anger is a wasting disease of mind, body, and spirit.
However, the fact is that when you can't forgive you are locked in the cage of anger and finding a way out is never easy.
Forgive someone who hurts you could be one of the most significant challenges in life, and it could take years. However, the hardest challenges are the most significant because they give you access to the most precious knowledge.
9 Key Conscious Practices to take your life back when you can't forgive
KEY 1: BUILD YOUR FUTURE, NOT DESTROY IT
Why is it so difficult to forgive? The moment of trauma runs through your head like a loop, gluing you in the past. Your mind lives in the past.
If you can't overcome that hurting moment and if everything keeps tying your mind with the past, the soul disease starts to growing.
In other words, if you don't move your consciousness beyond the event, mind keep directing its energy on the same throughs digging a furrow called disease.
Bringing your mind off that loop is the first priority in the process.
KEY 2: TAKE YOUR TIME
Taking your time to elaborate the trauma is healthy because you're not a robot and you need new straight to overcome what happened. Even if it sounds impossible, you're learning something, and like every learning process, it takes time. Don't claim to overcome the hurt immediately, be gentle with yourself.
However, taking your time to regain the straight to waking up is not an excuse to lie on the floor for too long. This step is crucial because repeating yourself that "you live in the now" is not enough, you need to take action.
What happened is a fact. Then, you have to move on thinking about what to do now, instead what happened. That's because you're responsible for your mental balance and also for your family.
KEY 3: BE PRESENT
You live in the present.
Be conscious that you're living in the now and you can decide how to respond to the facts. You can not control anyone, event or creature on the planet, but yourselves.
KEY 4: EMBRACE THIS DARK TIME
Even if at this moment could sound unbelievable, Universe is an intelligent system, and there simply can be no accidents.
As tough as it is to acknowledge, you had to go through what you went through to get to where you are today.
Take a look at your past: every spiritual progress in your life is preceded by some kind of fall or seeming trouble. Those dark times, accidents, hard episodes, breakups, periods of impoverishment, illnesses, abuses, and broken dreams cames at a perfect time.
Now it's not different.
Kay 5: TAKE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY
Removing blame means never attributing responsibility to anyone else for what you’re experiencing.
Even if you do not understand "why I feel this way, why I have this illness, or why I had this accident, but I’m willing to say without any guilt or resentment that I own it. I live with, and I am responsible for, having it in my life.”
If you take responsibility, you're not the victim. Instead, you accept your mistakes even when you can't understand them, and you know you're learning something precious from this experience.
You have control of your actions, you’re in some small way responsible for that pain, then you can go to work to remove it or discover what its message is for you.
Kay 6: UNDERSTANDING YOURSELF, INSTEAD BLAMING OTHERS
Whenever you’re upset about what other people are doing, shift the focus off them.
Move your mental energy from blame to self-perception.
Don’t blame yourself either for what you're felling! Just allow the experience to unfold.
No one has the power to make you uneasy without your permission, and that you’re unwilling to grant that authority to this person right now.
You are willing to freely experience your emotions without calling them “wrong” or needing to chase them away. In this way, you’ve made a shift to self-mastery.
It’s important to bypass blame, and even your desire to understand others. Instead, focus on understanding yourself.
By taking responsibility for how you choose to respond to anything or anyone, you’re aligning yourself with the intelligence of the Divine Universe.
KEY 7: SEND LOVE
Love is the medicine of soul and body, and you need an extra-dose when you're in the dark place.
Sometimes Love comes to you from other people, but the most powerful, healthy and pure Love comes from yourself. You're a Love machine because you're human and it's the highest power we all have.
The magic thing is that you heal yourself becoming stronger and healthier by generating and sending Love outside of yourself.
It doesn't matter you send Love to other people, animals or plants, we are all in the same Universe and Love is a universal Energy that every creature on Planet is able to understand.
If you never experience this practice for healing, you should have to start immediately, you'll experience instant relief.
You can send Love with your mind thought your center while you're walking, during your meditation, on the bus, while you're waiting or during all these moments you can focus your mind on this practice with no distractions.
KEY 8: CRYSTAL HEALING
All Crystals that vibrate to balance Heart Chakra can guide you towards the way of clean the heart from resentment and anger first, then you'll be ready for compassion and forgiveness.
Here are the Crystals and Stones I really recommend:
Stones for removing heaviness, resentment, Guilty & anger
Green Opal gives you the ability to filter information and reorient the mind cleansing the body from chaos and pollution.
Green Opal necklace helps you to heal toxic patterns from old emotions (also in other lives) and experiences as resentment, anger, and guilt by infusing its purifying and tonic energy.
It also dispels stress by inspiring spontaneity and faithfulness.
Peridot is an exceptional heart-cleanser.
Peridot sustains your transformation helping you to overcome fear, sadness, jealousies, and resentment.
It also helps to melt negative energy and avoid emotional draining opening the mind to new levels of awareness understanding and realizing your destiny.
Stones for processing & solidifying Forgiveness
Chrysocolla is an "emotional balancier", it relives anger emotions bring a sense of peace replacing them with understanding and indulgence.
It's the perfect gemstone for men not able to grant emotions to themselves.
Is there something in your heart that you can not forgive?
If there's a part of you that is 'stuck' in the past and blocks your energy flow, this beautiful necklace may be what you need.
The energy of Dioptase allows you to see the things in your life that do not serve you well and to change the dynamics of them.
Green Labradorite guides you to keep growing and teaches you how to generate the deepest gratitude from heart.
Green Labradorite also helps you to stay true to your self, and embrace your heart with healing kindness showing teh beauty of changing in the process of forgiveness.
The vibrational energies of Pink Kunzite are the mirror of an open and balanced Love.
This Crystal is the essence of emotional balance and the Divine feminine.
It helps you to share Love with others and let your spirit free from fear, anxiety or dark forecast of the future. Kunzite allows you to experience the Purity inside Heart.
Kunzite is really helpful to balance negative emotions or mental disorder.
Key 9: YOU'RE NOT ALONE
Everyone, almost one time in life, struggle with forgiveness.
Reading the books that inspire you the most or follow the "soul coach" that you love could be very helpful to understand, clarify and work on what you feel in this delicate time of your life.
If you're looking for some inspitarion here's are books that I recommend:
In Radical Forgiveness, readers join Colin for step-by-step instruction in what begins as a healing process, and culminates in a paradigm-shifting path to awakening. With this updated and revised edition, readers will discover:
• How to transform difficult emotions like anger, fear, and resentment into unconditional love, gratitude, and peace
• The five essential stages of Radical Forgiveness, and how they help us transcend the victim archetype and embrace the inherent perfection of life
• The tools of Radical Forgiveness: quick, effective, and easy-to-use techniques and processes.
Forgiveness is a guide to this most important spiritual gift reveals why it is so difficult to forgive and how to finally achieve forgiveness, letting go of suffering and anger in the process. Original. 35,000 first printing.
A self-help text for people who have been deeply hurt by another and caught in a vortex of anger, depression and resentment.
Forgiveness is a Choice shows how forgiveness, approached in the correct manner, benefits the forgiver far more than the forgiven, and seeks to lead the reader on a path that will bring clarity and peace.
Rather, by giving the gift of forgiveness, readers are encouraged to confront and let go of their pain in order to regain their lives.
Forgiveness is a huge topic, especially when we need to forgive ourself.
We'll come back to this beautiful and crucial point in future, because there're many perspectives to explore.
In the meantime, I wanna hear from you :)
Which was the turning point in your consciousness that allows you to forgive someone who hurts you?
Make sure to write your comment here below and share your own experience about forgiveness.
It could be really precious for everyone who is in the process of forgiving someone and take back their life.
Thank you so much,
Sincerely,
Francesca
Hi,
I am writing to you from Bangalore, India. This article itself has healed me slightly. So sensible, so beautifully your bringing the past mindset to current mindset making us realise that everything needs to move on.
I am so very grateful for reading this. It’s like I have attracted this onto myself because I was seeking help to self heal.
You are a beautiful soul. I want to learn to be like you.
Love,
Vidya