Posted on November 03 2017
Focusing our attention on developing and celebrate just some kind of emotions like happiness, joy and removing other ones is part of the education for most of us.
“You should be happy!”
“You should be positive!!”
Of course, trusting in the future is essential for healthy living. However, emotions like fear, sadness, shame exist for a reason and pretending they don’t exist or classifying them as “negative” can be dangerous.
We learn to hide a vast category of emotions that we call negatives since we’re teenager to other people and also o ourself.
We’re not fun when we’re sad, or anger, people could avoid us because our smile looks not large enough!
Here's how we learn to lie to other people, and to us making that a habit.
We blind our inner eyes and put a piece of us in a cage.
It would seem a situation without a way out, but it’s not.
Removing the blind and opening the cage is a step by step process that could emprove the quality of your life and your future allows you to discover your real you and live a happy life.
Ready to know the 3 Myths about “Negative Emotions”, and live a more meaningful life?
Myth Number ONE:
“Leaving out your negative emotions is the solution to solve your problems positively.”
Actually, it's quite the opposite.
In fact, as the social science researcher, empathy pioneer and best seller author Karla McLaren says:
“Emotions evolved over millions of years to help us become socially successful primates, and every single one of them is vital to our functioning.
We can’t leave any of them out if we want to live whole lives with all of our skills and all of our intelligence intact."
Emotions are vital because they're the fist step towards your future.
Emotions create choices
(most often than you think)
Choices create Actions
Actions create Future.
Emotion is the first step to create your future. If you can't read and master your emotions properly other people decide for you and you build a life that you don't want.
This can cause depression, emotional disorder, and sadness for example.
The genius inside all of our emotions is the most intelligent and sophisticated system. It tells you what works and what’s not, instantly.
It says you when you can breathe openly and relax your shoulders, when you must contract your muscles and go like a runaway train and everything in between.
Learning to listen to it puts you hundreds of miles forward many others people and gives you the ability to make better decisions and live a fulfilled live.
Myth Number TWO:
“Negative emotions are bad”
The truth is that most of the people are lazy!
That’s the reason many of them don’t like sadness, anger or depression. They know all these emotions are a call to action.
You have to use them to create what you want.
They require attention and commitment, that's why people use to pretend they don't exist, so they don't need to work!
However, that they give up their happiness doing that in the long run.
“The Myth of negative emotions make you less emotionally skilled, less competent, less functional-and and the long run, less happy.”
Emotions don’t go away when we hide them. They’re still there. If you pretend they don’t exist, they immediately come up as physical discomforts.
As Carl Jung said, ‘What you resist persists.’
Myth Number THREE:
“I'm different, my emotions are too much, they overwhelmed me”
Did you ever think that? If yes, you’re lucky for two reasons:
• You have the access to a vast range of emotions. That means you are able to develop a high level of emotional intelligence.
Your color palette is larger than other people’s palette, being more present in life and use your colors to create your own journey is easier for you.
• Emotions come in group, cluster or swarm anytime for everyone, be conscious about that means that your vocation as an "emotional listener" is huge. This is the first step to use your emotion proactively to create your future.
Well, How you Should Train Yourself to use the whole range of your Emotional Palette?
Emotions are not black and white, they come up in a swarm, and recognize each of them is usually difficult. But, (and this is a big “but”) you have the most advanced system on Heart: your mind.
Use your mind to take off the blind and open the cage, train your self and live your real life.
Here are some practices that make you an "expert" in feeling and managing emotions:
Meditation is the practice of listening. It the perfect way to walk if you wanna bring back your own unique emotional skills.
There are many kind of meditations, experiment which ones resonate deeply in you. If you need some inspiration, here you can find hundreds of meditation techniques. Choose the one that inspires you the most and... enjoy!
BOOKS & READING:
Developing an awareness and understanding your emotions can be complicated when you’re not used to thinking about how you feel.
Here's some reading and books that I recommend if you wanna be more develop your emotionally awareness and your emotionally skills:
What if there were a single skill that could directly and radically improve your relationships and your emotional life? Empathy, teaches Karla McLaren, is that skill.
With The Art of Empathy, she teaches us how to perceive and feel the experiences of others with clarity and authenticity—to connect with them more deeply and effectively.
In The Language of Emotions, she presents her breakthrough teachings for a new and empowering relationship with your feeling states.
Even after years of spiritual practice, self-improvement, or therapy, many of us still have trouble with one essential challenge: self-acceptance.
How do we stop from constantly judging ourselves as inadequate, finding fault with our bodies, or being plagued by our inner critics?
The Self-Acceptance Project was created to help us find a solution.
You can start your journeywith The Desire Map. It's more than a book, it's a pro-active journey leads you towards a different perspective to set your intentions and pursue your goals. The nice thing is that the MP3 audio track is included so you can embrace this new adventure where aver you want
Why do emotions feel automatic? Does rational thought really control emotion? How does emotion affect disease? How can you make your children more emotionally intelligent?
How Emotions Are Made answers these questions and many more, revealing the latest research and intriguing practical applications of the new science of emotion, mind, and brain.
From the celebrated neurobiologist and primatologist, a landmark, genre-defining examination of human behavior, both good and bad, and an answer to the question: Why do we do the things we do?
Behave is a New York Times Best Seller book by Robert M. Sapolsky.
ASK YOURSELF MORE WHY & TAKE ACTION:
When you feel a healthy fear that comes up on your stomach ask yourself
Why this fear comes up to me?
Why this situation scares me?
What I can do to turn “scary” into “safe” and create the magic?
MOVE YOUR BODY:
Emotions flowing through the body, that’s the way we feel them, and that’s why body and Emotion are so close to each other.
ASK TO CRYSTALS:
Asking to Crystals Kingdom to help you to be more sensitive and corageous is a fabulous choice, here are which Crystals can help
Aquamarine opens intuition and awareness to the inner ocean of wisdom and creativity. Aquamarine is a Stone of Courage and Protection.
It can also be used to promote verbal and spiritual expression and clear communication blocks.
Choose here your unique piece, and make sure to email me to firstname.lastname@example.org if you have a specific vision about your jewel with Aquamarine Crystal, I'm glad and honored to create something very special for you.
CLEAR QUARTZ and HERKIMER DIAMOND:
Herkimer Diamond alleviates physical tension and assists you to re-align the energy structure, that's why it can assist you to release tensions and rigidities of body tissues.
Wearing a Clear Quartz opens the mind and heart to higher guidance, allowing the realm of Spirit to be transmitted and translated into the world of physical form.
Clear Quartz is the most versatile and multidimensional stone for healing and all king or any kind of meditation including expansion of consciousness, attracting love or prosperity, past-life recall, Reiki, and visualization.
Garnet is an Amulet for protection against distractions, it assists you to grounds spirit forces within the body supporting the ability to work passionately on the physical level.
It helps you to reconnect your mind with spirit, removing fears of insecurity and improving self-esteem. Explore every available piece here.
I think that now we’re discovering the fundamental rule of “listening” in this age. That’s why listening skills, will be even more and more important in future.
Mind that there're not positive or negative emotions.
It’s what we use those feelings that can completely shift our life and make the the difference.